Sinivar
You have to think of the relationship as long term and treat it as such. You have to look at the person you "love" and think as if you were married to them or at least intended to spend every single day of your life with them. Believe me, as much as you love someone, things will not be like they were during the happy go lucky dating days. Especially if you live with parents currently.
That's why many adults look down on younger kids in relationships. Because as of now, you only have the sugar coated happy side to deal with so it's very very easy to say it's love. Yes, there's the little dramas and spats. But afterwards, you can always go home and have some privacy. When you live with someone, any fight you have, you cannot run away from. Anything you or they do that that becomes annoying is something that you will have to deal with every single day.
And this is leaving out money worries and having children.
It's love when you've seen the person you love at their very worst and were able to accept them anyway. It's when you have a massive argument where you -cannot- avoid each other afterwards and both of you decide that it's more important to apologize to each other and make it right more than deciding who was wrong or right. It's going through horrible stress and situations over long periods of time and NOT letting it tear you apart. It's being each other's rock when you need it even if you feel just as helpless as they do. In a relationship where you plan to be together for a very long time, those things WILL happen. Because even the little things build up.
Yes, some adults look down on it because they are jaded. But the rest usually do because real LOVE is a test of time that it's up to the people involved to make happen. Not just a whirl of glorified romance. It's not the A meets B story. It's A meets B and they make it work and they grow old with each other still retaining that love that made them want to spend those many years together. (I say A meets B rather than boy meets girl since the same applies to relationships comprised of any gender)
And any relationship worth respect in my book is going to do it's best to meet those odds and work through them. And at the end, still love each other as much as they did back when it was that whirl of romantic bliss along with the love they have now that is strong and filled with trust from having been tempered with the experience you have gotten spending life at each other's side.
That's why many adults look down on younger kids in relationships. Because as of now, you only have the sugar coated happy side to deal with so it's very very easy to say it's love. Yes, there's the little dramas and spats. But afterwards, you can always go home and have some privacy. When you live with someone, any fight you have, you cannot run away from. Anything you or they do that that becomes annoying is something that you will have to deal with every single day.
And this is leaving out money worries and having children.
It's love when you've seen the person you love at their very worst and were able to accept them anyway. It's when you have a massive argument where you -cannot- avoid each other afterwards and both of you decide that it's more important to apologize to each other and make it right more than deciding who was wrong or right. It's going through horrible stress and situations over long periods of time and NOT letting it tear you apart. It's being each other's rock when you need it even if you feel just as helpless as they do. In a relationship where you plan to be together for a very long time, those things WILL happen. Because even the little things build up.
Yes, some adults look down on it because they are jaded. But the rest usually do because real LOVE is a test of time that it's up to the people involved to make happen. Not just a whirl of glorified romance. It's not the A meets B story. It's A meets B and they make it work and they grow old with each other still retaining that love that made them want to spend those many years together. (I say A meets B rather than boy meets girl since the same applies to relationships comprised of any gender)
And any relationship worth respect in my book is going to do it's best to meet those odds and work through them. And at the end, still love each other as much as they did back when it was that whirl of romantic bliss along with the love they have now that is strong and filled with trust from having been tempered with the experience you have gotten spending life at each other's side.
I'll have to remember that.
