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I don't believe in love at first sight. I believe in love, but I don't believe you can automatically fall in love with someone. You may think them beautiful, attractive, smart, funny at first glance, but when you first met someone, you can't automatically fall in love. You may feel attached to them, and want to spend more time with them, that is friendship. Friendship always comes first, that's what I believe. From friendship, love may be created, never the other way around and never love automatically.

I don't believe you should date young. Because when you date young, there's nothing much for you to do. You can't have serious relationships, what's then point of dating young when you know you're going to have your heart broken, and you somewhere in the back of your mind know you're young relationship wouldn't last. Everyone should wait, because 13 is too young. Even 14 and 15 aren't much better. Only once you have truly become a mature woman/man only then will it be right to date. Another thing is, no matter how old you feel, in the mind or body, we still hold innocence in our minds. For at such young ages, we haven't yet realized the terrors of the world. And there can be so much to look forward to of pain and suffering, what start off young? Don't worry, pain in the world shall never dry up, so lets us all be patient for heartbreak. So when you're old enough, you can have heartbreak and suffering of many other stuff at the same time. And if you survive then you are strong.

Another thing I must address is your first kiss. I know many 13 year olds and they have already lost their first kiss, already started dating. Why? They gave up their first kiss to ones they didn't really love? Why? In todays society, first kisses aren't respected anymore. Nor are virgins. Why do we degrade ourselves this way? I myself haven't had my first kiss, neither have I even hugged a boy. Even my first hug I'm going to hold sacred. Only will I hug family and when I see fit, I shall hug the guy I love. That's it. Then I will later kiss him on the check. Nothing more. And years from now, I then shall let him have my first kiss. And only after I'm married will I give up my virginity. This is how God wishes it to be I believe, everything is sacred. A simple hug, kiss on the check, and a kiss on the lips.

I pray some people heed my advise. Hold everything sacred. Respect everything. Wait to date, wait for heartbreak, wait for the pain. And remember, there will always be love in friendship, but never friendship in love. There will always be friendship first, and then there shall be love. Never love at first sight in my opinion.

These are things I believe. And now it's just up to everyone else to decide what they too really believe.